2- A sense of personal safety and security in normal relationships, because one can set good physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual/intellectual boundaries (and can also respect other’s boundaries)
3-The ability to determine and take care of one’s adult needs and wants without exaggerated shame or fear, and to ask for help when needed
4- The ability to own and express one’s reality honestly, especially imperfection
5- The ability to express one’s reality moderately (Not in extremes) in a way that is age-appropriate
These matured traits develop out of natural characteristics that each child is born with, working as seeds to develop the mature person. Because:
The job of each parent is to nurture these natural characteristics, so by adulthood the child has learnt the skills necessary to live freely and creative, achieving the five characteristics of a mature adult.
But when parents don’t respect and nurture these traits properly, and instead try to force the child to meet their needs/expectations, the child’s emotional development is arrested
Information gathered from “Compelled to Control” By J. Keith Miller