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Selfishness or a format of self-love??

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Lately I am finding myself asking this question. Due to the Corona Virus, I feel that the need to be more compassionate & caring towards others citizens has definitely grown within me and I am more aware of the constant adapting to the rules from the government, as a method to show "zero tolerance towards the unkind virus".

Yes I totally understand that we need not be selfish in this topic, absolutely not. But I have to admit that I wearing a mask is hard for me, as it fogs my spectacles, I can not breathe and I can not wear lipstick!!!, yes I know not a biggie for some. But I know that is necessary to keep us all save.

Apart from the Covid-19, I want to explore this with you: is selfishness really that bad?? and at what level? How can I love myself without knowing what myself is???


Give, give and give, yes I do like to give: compliments, smiles, honest opinions, little tokens, a cup of tea or coffee, (depending on your preference) or a glass of wine, hugs and even kisses. But when I keep on giving I have found out that I need to be selective, selfish so I don't get hurt or betrayed.

And truthfully I need to self preserve as an intelligent animal, I need to survive, to do so I need energy, physically as much as emotionally. Is it not my responsibility to take of myself? so how is it selfish to say NO or ENOUGH?? To me I thought that it was self-love.


When: " I say NO, you are not treating me like this!! " (the first time or again) is not easy for me & it does not come out from my "Cruel, nasty or harming side" it comes out from the sense of justice or from freedom, screaming for release from the chains that are holding to fly to be me!! Is self respect, is my self-love, even my Identity, so how is that selfishness???


Forgive and forgive, until what limit??? if forgiving is going to give me peace, is going to improve a relationship then yes, I am ok with: " yes, I can let it go" but forgiving to be point that is going to hurt me? So that "Scorpion" (from the tale of the "Fox and Scorpion") is going to bite me again? the nature of the snakes, scorpions, other predators is to bite again and again, is not their fault it is in their nature. So allowing to be kind and giving to a predator like that is not being a nice person, but is being self-harming to oneself.

So what you think????


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